STOP ALL CRITICISM, FIRST WAY TO LOVE YOURSELF
Today I was speaking with a beautiful girl and I was shocked to hear how much she hated her body because it is not the 90-60-90cm. The Vogue magazine and the modern society dictates how the body of a woman should be. She told me how much the opinion of other people matters and how some time she cries in the night because not everyone thinks she is lovely, clever and pretty.Then I was looking at a small child maybe 2 or 3 playing in my shop in front of a mirror, he was delighted to see himself. There was no sign of criticism at all and he did not show any interest about the opinion of anyone around him. He was appreciating and accepting himself exactly as he was.
When did we lose that connection with ourselves? How did we start to criticise ourselves? When the beliefs of others started to be more important that our own beliefs? And even worse, when did the opinions of others start to change our opinion?
The reality is none of those answers are important, what is really transcendental is that we start to be aware of our beliefs and ask ourselves; Is it mine or is it a creation of a society or other people? Does it serve me to make me happy? And if not: Do I want to change it?
And if the answer is yes, just start the process to do it. Very gently repeat in front of the mirror looking into your eyes, your new belief, write the new story and when a part of you tells you that it is not true, smile with compassion to that part of you and gently but firm, say “thank you for your opinion, but not now” and reaffirm your new story.
It will take time, like with a child when you want to change a habit, at the beginning it will be difficult, but if your are consistent and persevere at the end the child will surrender.
Remember: You are beautiful, it does not matter your size. You are lovable because you exist. You deserve the best because you are a child of God. You just need to remember your feelings when you where a little child and you where 100% connected to yourself.
It does not matter your age or your current situation in life, it is always the right time to love and accept yourself more.
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