Freedom = Love
Today I read the follow quote: “I want to be with someone who does not need me for anything and wants me for everything”What a liberating statement!!
I Was educated in a society where our value was given for the level of needs of the people around us. I heard phrases like this so often; “I can not go away because my husband needs me”, “I can not die yet, because my children need me”, “I can not cry or grieve because my family needs my strength”, “I can not say no, because they need me”. And when the realisation that people do not really need you, expressions like this appear; “I do not know what to do with myself, my children do not need me any more”, “he does not need me, so what is the point to be together”? ”They do not mind if I say not, they really never care about me”.
So, we try desperate to make people believe they need us, we convince ourselves that the happiness and well been of others depend of us and in that way we measure our value.
But what a false and oppressive believe is that. Nothing could be more liberated that to be with people who does not need you. It is a big step to change our beliefs and realise that the happiness and well being of every single person in this universe depends only of themselves and on the reality that we are one. No one can make me happy and I can not make any one happy. I am valuable because I exist and my believes, actions and thoughts influence the enter universe, no because other people depend of me.
Can you Imagen how great and relax would be a world where no one will be really needed? Where every body will be just loved? Where you can say no without to feel guilty? Where every one take responsibility on their feelings with out to have to point the finger to some one? I do not know you, but I do not want to needed any more for any one. Today I just commit myself to myself, give what I can give with love, not for obligation or duty. Today I recognize no one can add or subtract value to me. Today I gave freedom to every one around me to be and do what they want because my happiness does not depend of any one outside me. Today I get free of any guilt others have try to put over my shoulders because I understand their happiness and well been is their responsibility and journey, not mine.
What about you? Do you still want to need any one? Do you still wishing to be need? You can be free, you can free them.
Enjoy life, it is a blessing.
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